Why did you marry?
Did you marry for the glory and fame?
Be careful that can be the price for shame,
Why did you marry?
Was it to grab headlines,
And at worst hit footlines,
Lines like 'wedding of the year?'
Where you conscious of all you have to bear,
All the storms you have to endure,
Which punctuate the bliss and make your humanity pure,
Why did you get married?
Was it merely an escape route for the sexual urge?
Is it a vent for all the things you feel the need to purge?
You'll be sure to find out life is bigger than emotions,
Larger than promotions and demotions,
Why did you get married?
Was it in order to make a social statement,
To get a waning prestige re-instatement?
Why did you get married?
Did you crack under peer pressure,
Pulled by a killing desire to meet the peer measure,
Was it used as a wheel to office,
Was it for the auspice,
Did you marry an engineer or doctor,
Or did you marry a human being - the human factor,
Was it for the title,
Or was it for the mettle,
Was it for nationality,
Way out of internationality?
Why did you get married?
Was is just for the kids?
Sanctify your deeds,
You will be disappointed when you miss the point,
It is a union where purposes are joint,
It is deeper and more profound,
If you hurry experience will painfully expound,
Purify you motives,
Before you get on the marriage locomotive,
Know marriage is to make better,
Shouldn't be a fetter,
Let love be your aim,
Your method,
Your end,
For in the end,
Love still conquers all.
© 2010 afeseh ngwa hilary
Nice poem! Love conquers all indeed, but it's not so easy. It always starts out as love and ends up as misery! Perhaps as far as marriage is concerned we should not be talking about love but about selflessness. When love fails, it takes only the selfless to hold it together.
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Ndiga Lum,
ReplyDelete...mostly I agree with you... love can be hard... it might not necessarily be like we want...it can be excruciatingly and mindlessly painful... I believe in the end true love never fails... but we need God's grace and help to truly love... In Ted Kennedy's eulogy to his brother Robert, he quoted words which Robert Kennedy wrote about his own father expressing what his father meant to him: "What it really all adds up to is love - not love as it is described with such facility in popular magazines, but the kind of love that is affection and respect, order, encouragement, and support. Our awareness of this was an incalculable source of strength, and because real love is something unselfish and involves sacrifice and giving, we could not help but profit from it." ... hopefully this helps to give better perspective to the kind of love I am writing about, not as the world prescribes, not the necessarily easy kind of love... but the kind prescribed by the Architect of marriage Himself, the one who walked Eve down the aisle to Adam, officiating the first marriage, the kind of love which by the grace of God will pay even the ultimate selfless sacrifice to live... this love runs on the tracks of extravagant amazing grace... and I know we all fall short sometimes... but grace...
thanks for weighing in... your input always makes the work and this blog better :)...
afeseh